27 August 2013

Time for reflection

Pause, take a breath, be calm, think, evaluate, consider.

There are key times in the year when I take time to consider what I have been doing, how things have changed, and where I want things to go. New Year is one, when the chaos of Christmas is past, and there is a little stillness for the first time in weeks. And again as Summer ends, and the long school Summer holidays are over (two months in my boys case), there is another time for reflection. Come late August, I am itching to get on with all the things I haven't been able to do I for two whole months. Time to take the pause button off life. It may start with a de-clutter, a huge cleaning session, and an ironing mountain to work on, but then I can turn to my lists of things I haven't had time to do, things I need to do, and things I want to do.

Despite a jolly public face for Charlotte Bezzant Jewellery, it has been an extremely hard year on a personal level. Not the sort of stuff I have wanted to share, and who would want to read about it anyway? I have asked myself over and over if I should even refer to it in anyway in a blog post. Finally I came to the conclusion that what I experience is what makes me tick, it is intertwined with my creativity. The short version is, early in the year I nearly stopped making jewellery. My spirit was crushed and broken, and it all seemed rather fruitless. I had been under pressure for sometime not to run a business, and it seemed that was what was going to become reality. The little energy I had was needed to keep me and my boys going through the most difficult time of my life. I had no energy for creative things.

Then suddenly there was a realisation. To stop would mean I was defeated. It would mean my dreams had been crushed. It would mean all I had been doing to build my little business had been a waste of time. Then there were other things that became important to me. The need to bring up my children showing them that if you want something, and you work for something, there is a big chance you can achieve it. That it's OK to dream, and sometimes your dreams come true. And on a more basic level, my future was completely uncertain, and it seemed important to be able to produce an income of some description, however tiny, because it could be vital. Making jewellery is something I do when the children are at school, or when they are asleep. As far as they are concerned, they have a full time mum. That's important to them, and important to me. I am always there - for school runs, to ferry them from clubs, to sit and do homework, to make sure they are clean, washed and well presented, well fed and nourished, and that they are tucked into bed at the end of every single day having had the time to talk, a bedtime story, and a big kiss. On top of this my lovely boys are really proud of mummy and her jewellery making. Bless them. As well as the fact that they tell me what I make is beautiful, I'm under the impression they actually think I'm famous!

So now, as the Summer heat has died away, and the mornings are becoming fresh and Autumnal. I have to consider what to do next. I must evaluate all options.

The reality is I could definitely earn more money doing something else. Anything else really. But this is about more than money. It's about striving and achieving, its about learning and growing, it's about being appreciated, and making people happy. It's about self esteem. It's about being there, and also being a role model for my boys.

Creativity is in my blood. My parents are both creative. It's as important to me as breathing. From an early age I knew I would go to Art School, and I did. I have always made, drawn, sewn. Where I am now with my jewellery making grew from a hobby, an evening class. If I don't sell jewellery, I can't afford to make jewellery. I don't want to stop. If I am not making jewellery, I would be making something, anything else. I always have done.

I believe in the things I make. Everything I create is something that I would chose for myself (except perhaps for earrings, my ears are nearly always bare.) It means I can talk about it with a passion. I have grown in confidence as I have seen there are others who like the same things as me.

Making commissions brings me real pleasure. The fact you know someone is getting something unique, and so special to them, makes me feel warm inside. I know how much thought and effort, and 'the extra mile' that I put into commissioned pieces. Other makers do to, and I love to be able to support them by buying hand made things when I can.

Makers like me are now facing the run up to Christmas. I know that seems ridiculously early if you are not a maker, but out there there are many like me ordering packaging, thinking about stock levels, getting on with producing stock. Last Christmas was the first real Christmas for my business, this year I have a better idea of what to expect, so I want to run with it. In January, I can look back and decide if that's right for me. It needs to work with role as a mum, Carol Concerts, School Christmas Fairs, cake sales, writing Christmas cards, filling stockings etc.

So now, no more procrastination. I'm off to write a 'to do' list. I know I really WANT to do this. I just need to prove to myself that I really SHOULD do this.

7 comments:

  1. Beautiful reflections Charlotte! It is tough balancing being a Mum with running a small business. I love that you are there for your kids and that family always come first. That is a real gift you have given them (and yourself too). But when creativity is so much a part of you never give up. Maybe take a break or a rest when needed, for as long as you need. It will always be there with open arms to welcome you back.

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    1. Thank you Evonne. You are the first person that has pointed out that my jewellery will always be there even if I take a break. You are so right, and it is reassuring to think that. X

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  2. At moments like this (and I could have written a lot of your post myself!) I ask myself what would I advise my kids...
    You've already achieved so much, now its about finding the balance that works for you :)

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    1. Balance is the key. Everyone's comments, here, on fb, or by email, have made me realise that making jewellery is part of me now, and if I do more of it, less of it, or take a break, it will always be there for me. Working out what is the right balance is the answer. And realising what is the right balance for now, may change in the future. Thank you for taking the time to comment. It is amazing just to know there are people out there who even take the time to read this! X

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  3. I need to email you with more stuff - remind me :)

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    1. Yes please! I know you are a busy lady (after that financial equation you sent me!) Doing my first figures contributed to my malady, a miserable wake up call.) I will mail you. X

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  4. During the hard days of the last war, when Hepworth and Nicholson had de-camped to Carbis Bay, it was tough for her. He locked himself in a room and carried on regardless. She had four children and a home to run on very little money. She has written that it was important to her to just do a little every day, just a drawing maybe, as she didn't have her tools or the space to make sculpture. She carried on in her head, working towards what she felt was in her.
    Keep up the skill level and you will not feel that you are losing impetus!

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